Controlling Your Nerves: Public Speaking Mastery

Regardless of how many times you are tasked to speak publicly about a topic, you will experience some semblance of excitement, anxiety or nerves prior to going on. While we can never fully anticipate specifically which will hit us and to what degree, we can certainly limit any potentially negative impact and also channel the emotion into a positive outcome.

1. Remember that you’re the expert. If you find yourself nervous or apprehensive, reflect on the fact there is a reason you have been tapped to tackle the topic. You are speaking to a group of people about something you are likely very comfortable with. Your knowledge level on this subject is typically superior to those receiving your message. You likely spend a significant amount of time dabbling in the dialogue you will deliver; you’ve got this. It is your wheelhouse and you are the subject matter expert. Find solace and confidence in your unique understanding of the topic.

2. Drown out the distractions. We typically over-think in situations of this ilk. “What if I forget something?” “What if I mess up?” “What if someone asks me a question I don’t have the answer to?” We can be our own worst enemy! If someone asks you something you don’t know, explain – “That’s a great question! In this  field, things are ever-changing. I can commit to getting you the most up to date response. Let’s connect afterward.” Furthermore, think about how many times you have seen speeches delivered – you likely do not even notice the “gaffes” they themselves deem as less than their best work. You cannot control exactly how the speech will go, but you can certainly control the notes you reference during the presentation, you can control your knowledge of the subject and you can most definitely work to control what you allow to seep into your consciousness. A friend of mine once shared with me the value in literally acknowledging the presence of a negative thought or emotion and forcefully dismissing it. With practice, this process goes a long way in pushing out any unwanted anxiety.

3. Don’t over-rehearse. There is something to be said for developing a comfort level with the material and your presentation. You’ll hear that you can rehearse in the mirror or to a peer. While I firmly believe in being fully prepared to impart knowledge to your audience, it is certainly problematic when you become so rehearsed that you become obsessed with performing your speech precisely as rehearsed. Rather than being able to develop a rhythm and flow, you trip over trying to replicate past performances. Rehearse and make it innate, but do not overdo it.

4. Relax. Whether nothing’s at stake to a potentially large client or deal, there are likely numerous reasons you’re at the podium. We spend so much time worrying about outcomes that never become reality – and what does the worrying get us? If you’re prepared, you’re an expert and you are nimble and quick on your feet to answer questions and commit to finding answers on anything you don’t know, you’ve controlled what you can control. The rest will take care of itself.

Nerves are a funny thing; they can pop up when we don’t expect them and even after years of perfecting our craft. That said, funnel and channel them into an obsession with doing your subject matter justice, not an obsession over a rehearsed, canned speech. Know your audience, deliver the goods. The rest will truly fall into place, and with practice – like any other process – you will learn small tweaks you can make to enhance your performance.

And best of luck/ break a leg!


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I am a Christian, Husband, Dad, workaholic and author. Biography Carson Vincent Heady was born in Cape Girardeau, MO, graduated from Southeast Missouri State University and moved to St. Louis in 2001. He has served in sales and leadership across Microsoft, AT&T, Verizon and T-Mobile. Carson is best-selling author of the Birth of a Salesman series, the first book of which was published by World Audience Inc. in 2010. He released The Salesman Against the World in 2014, A Salesman Forever in 2016 and Salesman on Fire in 2020. He is also featured in Scott Ingram’s B2B Sales Mentors: 20 Stories from 20 Top 1% Sales Professionals. Carson is a 7-time CEO/President’s Club winner across 5 roles at AT&T and Microsoft and National Verizon Rockstar winner. He has been recognized as a top social seller at Microsoft and is consistently ranked in the top 25 sales gurus in the world on Rise Global. He is included among the Top 50 sales authors on LinkedIn. With over 330K social followers, Carson has also been interviewed on over 30 sales and leadership podcasts, by such luminaries as Jeffrey & Jennifer Gitomer, Jeb Blount, Brandon Bornancin, Sam Dunning, Larry Levine, Darrell Amy, Scott Ingram, Thierry van Herwijnen, Jim Brown, Sam Jacobs, Luigi Prestinenzi, Donald Kelly, Marylou Tyler, George Leith, Pat Helmer, Eric Nelson, Ron Tunick, Jeff Arthur, Mary Ann Samedi, Jean Oursler, Andre Harrell, Marlene Chism, Bill Crespo, Matt Tanguay, Josh Wheeler and Chad Bostick. He has also co-hosted the Smart Biz Show on EG Marketing Radio. His articles have appeared in several noteworthy publications such as SalesGravy, Smash! Sales, Salesopedia and the Baylor Sports Department S3 Report. Carson lives in St. Louis, MO, with his wife Amy and daughters Madison, Sidonia and Charlotte.
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