It has been some time since the last viewing, but the 2001 Nicolas Cage film of the same name is a very worthy watch whose message captures a struggle I can relate to.
In my 20’s, I was the Cage that opened the film: the successful, single businessman. My priorities were my career and my career, and I garnered promotion after promotion after promotion on sheer will, brute sales force and determination all while unable to commit to or prioritze anything else beyond it. Most of my best friends were in the workplace, and I devoted my entire self to my workforce and my work. My love for my career overshadowed many things, I was heralded as a phenom and promised to one day be CEO.
In my 30’s, everything has changed, but the message here is that while I miss facets of that life – the standing ovations for my speeches, the cavalier way by which I managed my life and the run-and-gun environment – the joys that have replaced that life far surpass what once was.
I miss the ovations, but they pale in comparison to the hugs from my daughter. I miss the sales awards and prizes, but I prefer the cards and pictures and trinkets she creates for me. I miss the comradery of fellow sales stars, but I prefer the company of family.
It is vital for us to be able to compartmentalize memories – and great ones, at that – into their proper place. We can look back fondly, but cannot dwell; we can enjoy the thought of those magical times, but the new memories we are making add to a collection that will span a lifetime.
The Cage character realizes that the life he believes has it all is actually quite lacking – it is missing love, it is missing belonging, it is missing true purpose and joy. I still have no idea what I am destined to do in this world, but I can say this: I don’t regret anything that got me to here. I made choices that took me on a completely different path; I stood up for what was right instead of crossing over to the dark side, made some mistakes and stumbled along, but this path is far more rewarding… and it’s mine.
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