The Family Man

It has been some time since the last viewing, but the 2001 Nicolas Cage film of the same name is a very worthy watch whose message captures a struggle I can relate to.

In my 20’s, I was the Cage that opened the film: the successful, single businessman. My priorities were my career and my career, and I garnered promotion after promotion after promotion on sheer will, brute sales force and determination all while unable to commit to or prioritze anything else beyond it. Most of my best friends were in the workplace, and I devoted my entire self to my workforce and my work. My love for my career overshadowed many things, I was heralded as a phenom and promised to one day be CEO.

In my 30’s, everything has changed, but the message here is that while I miss facets of that life – the standing ovations for my speeches, the cavalier way by which I managed my life and the run-and-gun environment – the joys that have replaced that life far surpass what once was.

I miss the ovations, but they pale in comparison to the hugs from my daughter. I miss the sales awards and prizes, but I prefer the cards and pictures and trinkets she creates for me. I miss the comradery of fellow sales stars, but I prefer the company of family.

It is vital for us to be able to compartmentalize memories – and great ones, at that – into their proper place. We can look back fondly, but cannot dwell; we can enjoy the thought of those magical times, but the new memories we are making add to a collection that will span a lifetime.

The Cage character realizes that the life he believes has it all is actually quite lacking – it is missing love, it is missing belonging, it is missing true purpose and joy. I still have no idea what I am destined to do in this world, but I can say this: I don’t regret anything that got me to here. I made choices that took me on a completely different path; I stood up for what was right instead of crossing over to the dark side, made some mistakes and stumbled along, but this path is far more rewarding… and it’s mine.

Carson V. Heady has written a sales/motivation/success book unlike any other, entitled “Birth of a Salesman” that has a unique spin that shows you proven sales principles designed to birth in you the top producer you were born to be. It is a how-to sell/career advice book inside a novel about the fictional author who practices what he preaches.

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About cvheady007

I am a Christian, Husband, Dad, workaholic and author. Biography Carson Vincent Heady was born in Cape Girardeau, MO, graduated from Southeast Missouri State University and moved to St. Louis in 2001. He has served in sales and leadership across Microsoft, AT&T, Verizon and T-Mobile. Carson is best-selling author of the Birth of a Salesman series, the first book of which was published by World Audience Inc. in 2010. He released The Salesman Against the World in 2014, A Salesman Forever in 2016 and Salesman on Fire in 2020. He is also featured in Scott Ingram’s B2B Sales Mentors: 20 Stories from 20 Top 1% Sales Professionals. Carson is a 7-time CEO/President’s Club winner across 5 roles at AT&T and Microsoft and National Verizon Rockstar winner. He has been recognized as a top social seller at Microsoft and is consistently ranked in the top 25 sales gurus in the world on Rise Global. He is included among the Top 50 sales authors on LinkedIn. With over 330K social followers, Carson has also been interviewed on over 30 sales and leadership podcasts, by such luminaries as Jeffrey & Jennifer Gitomer, Jeb Blount, Brandon Bornancin, Sam Dunning, Larry Levine, Darrell Amy, Scott Ingram, Thierry van Herwijnen, Jim Brown, Sam Jacobs, Luigi Prestinenzi, Donald Kelly, Marylou Tyler, George Leith, Pat Helmer, Eric Nelson, Ron Tunick, Jeff Arthur, Mary Ann Samedi, Jean Oursler, Andre Harrell, Marlene Chism, Bill Crespo, Matt Tanguay, Josh Wheeler and Chad Bostick. He has also co-hosted the Smart Biz Show on EG Marketing Radio. His articles have appeared in several noteworthy publications such as SalesGravy, Smash! Sales, Salesopedia and the Baylor Sports Department S3 Report. Carson lives in St. Louis, MO, with his wife Amy and daughters Madison, Sidonia and Charlotte.
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